It often takes courage to accept ourselves at our core. It’s not always easy to live an authentic life when we live in an expectation driven culture. In fact many of us lose ourselves in the game of life and we surrender who we are for approval, for maintaining relationships and keeping peace. I believe that genuine happiness starts with honoring our core values, beliefs and our true wants. Here are 7 ways in which you can be true to yourself and live a life that’s in alignment with who you are as a person.
1. Never Allow Someone Else to Think for You: While this may seem obvious, it’s not uncommon for many of us to find ourselves unconsciously siding with someone or something that goes against our authentic self. Why do we do this? Typically we do it to people please or to feel accepted and neither of these behaviors will result in us feeling good in the end.
2. Don’t Be Afraid of Change: This prevents you from growing and developing into the best version of yourself. Take on the challenge of being uncomfortable because that feeling is only the beginning of a transition into something better.
3. Don’t Sacrifice Your Own Happiness or Well-Being for Someone Else: When we do what makes us happy, we are staying in accordance with our true self. That being said, putting other’s contentment ahead of our own will typically leave us feeling taken advantage of and occasionally even bitter. It’s important to set up personal boundaries in obligatory situations such as these.
4. Listen to Yourself: Many of us tend to quiet those prolific voices that occasionally play in the background of our mind. Those productive reverberations in our subconscious need to be cultivated as they are there to help guide us on the path we were meant for. When we shut out our intuitions, we block ourselves from getting where we need to be, therefore hindering the course we are in alignment with.
5. Be Honest With Yourself and Others: Make an effort to identify your vulnerabilities and shed awareness around the aspects of your life where you may be untrue to yourself. For example, how do you act at work, around your in-laws or on a first date? Do you put an a facade and if so does it compromise your core values?
6. Your Power is Yours to Keep: Searching for external validation from others is one way we sacrifice our power, but many of us also do it by falling into the deep trenches of victimhood. Being stuck in such a mindset only cultivates more and more feelings of disempowerment. Our power is sacred to the development of who we are as people, it is what gives us control over our life. Why give something so precious away?
7. Stop Caring What Others Think: Making a commitment to disregard perceptions or judgements can be very challenging, especially if we rely on their approval and/or validation. However, by doing this we yield to their opinions and create a distorted self-perception and self-worth. This is unhealthy and unproductive and far from living an authentic life. It’s important that we accept ourselves for who we are and not who we feel we should be.
Being true to yourself means allowing your authentic self to empower your life. Make a vow to live in accordance with who you are at your core. While it may be challenging at times, it is one of the single most fulfilling things you can do for yourself. “It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.” -E.E. Cummings